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I’m gonna start off with a little rant

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I’m new to this site. I’m gonna start off with a little rant.

Lads, I actually have no motivation whatsoever. Like, I WANT to do well, I WANT to go to college and do something with my life, but when it comes to work, I just can’t. I want to be able to study soooo bad. I envy those who can go home after school everyday and sit down for hours until they have their work done, homework AND study. I envy those who are organised and hardworking and most of all… who are motivated.

It’s nearly ‘CAO Time’ and I STILL don’t know what I want to do in college, I have no aim! I want to aim high but I don’t know what course I want or what college I want to go to. It’s so stressful ! How come everyone else seems ok? They know what they want to do.. I feel like the only one 🙁

My worst enemy : Maths. I’m in honours, just barely. My teacher is terrible, and he suggests I drop. I hate maths so much. My teacher makes it even more difficult than it really is, because when I go online to watch Youtube Videos, it’s so much easier. It’s like my teacher wants me to keep doing bad. I can’t remember when I didn’t fail maths. I know if I had a better teacher I would do better. It’s not just me who thinks this of my teacher by the way… everyone I know that had him, through the generations, ALL said the same thing: Basically, you have to teach yourself. But if its a hard subject, how can you teach yourself something you do not understand?

Mocks. 3 weeks or so. I want to study sooo bad, but will I? Probably not. And I hate myself for my lack of motivation , this is our last year, my last year. My final year, the year we have all been preparing for since Baby Infants, to think of it like that, I don’t want to bail out now, I’m in too deep. But, it’s so incredibly difficult to gain the stamina to keep going. How does one do it? I need help 🙁

I’m just gonna hope I start to study soon.

Adios Amigos…

Shan

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7 COMMENTS

  1. You do seem like you were in a predicament when you turned to this blog when time was precious. It seems like you’re sincere and oblivious to how to get motivated. Take this advice in case you have to repeat next year:
    *Pick a course at the beginning of the year and don’t dare to procrastinate because you think you don’t know what to do . . Pick a general course such as arts or undenominated science which will give you a lot of scope when you finally realise what career you want to lean towards when you’re in college.
    *stop whining about a lack of motivation and just physically sit your ass on a chair, throw all distractions into a drawer. Read your notes and then rewrite as much as you can remember. If you don’t do anything but go over everything that you learned in each subject that day in class, you’d be doing well. The idea of studying may be abominable for the first while but if you make a habit out of it it gets less taxing. I hated studying at the beginning but by leaving cert it became a sort of therapy for me.
    *Stop focusing on what you can’t do and bloody try and do it. I thought I was atrocious at English at the beginning of fourth year but instead of dismissing it as a subject that I wouldn’t count I worked twice as hard at it than any other subject.
    *If a subject gets to the point where it seems way to difficult and is undermining your confidence than try your best and don’t give up. If after around 4 class tests where you have invested a lt of time and effort and you still don’t see an improvement, it’s time to move to a lower level and invest more time into other subjects.

    Finally: It’s ‘I don’t want to do BADLY’ not ‘I don’t want to do bad’. . .

    For GOD’S SAKE

  2. @RyanM yeah cheers for the advice and all, but you are bit of an a** if you ask me. I didn’t ask for the grammar police, and who the hell cares if I made a little grammar mistake. Don’t tell you you’ve never done it before? I was ranting on, if you didn’t read the title. Rants are written when a person is annoyed/angry/bad mood/low/etc …. which usually means they type very fast and/or do not give a damn about grammer mistakes, and do not take notice to them either. Who the hell cares enough to bring that up? No one but pathetic idiots who have nothing better to do than give out.

    I wasn’t ‘whining’ , I was literally telling people my problem. I wasn’t lazy, I had a problem. I had no aim, and when a person has no aim, it is pretty damn hard to get yourself motivated to do something you really hate.

    I don’t appreciate your insensitivity towards my comment, and quite frankly, I don’t give a toss about your opinion.

    If you even give a damn, I ended up pushing myself to study as much as I could for the last 2 to 4 weeks. Better than nothing.

    Oh, and by the way, did you notice you didn’t even use paragraphs?

    Yeah,thought so.

    Sincerely,
    Shan.

  3. Hi Shan,

    I know this is a bit too late for your dead-line, but I have – or had (important not to dwell on the past and make it the present) – the same problem as you:
    Exams are up, haven’t even opened the book, going into one’s imaginary private world doing whatever you love and losing yourself and time in it? It’s practically a Catch-22, for when things go down hill, even if you want to go back, somehow you are pushing yourself down! What bastards we are, aye? Well actually that’s how it works: You are not living up to your OWN stands and therefore feel worse everyday and about yourself. So you avoid doing whatever you are trying to force yourself to do, because that’s how we react to pain, by avoiding the cause. You may think “What pain?”, but pain is only pain when the brain receives the message from neurons, not when the body is actually under duress, so why should it react differently when experiencing other kinds of pain? You probably guessed it: It doesn’t!

    Now enough with the depressing facts, what if everybody else who made this world livable said “It’s impossible, it’s too hard and confusing, and I don’t even know where to start!” As many know, when “inventing” the light bulb, Edison went through over a 1000 experiment. Thank Jebus he’s more continually disciplined than me 🙂

    Now:
    – Do you want to do what you need to or do you WISH you wanted to do them?
    I am guessing that you wish that you wanted to.
    – The real question is: Are you willing to work in order to actually get yourself in order?
    This is not a drill. This is your life. Either you get on the horse or you can stay here. Sure you can work lousy jobs for the rest of your life, but is that what you really want? If you did, you wouldn’t be unhappy with the current situation, now would you?
    I think I have you attention 🙂
    Let’s proceed:
    – Baby steps. What ever I “show” or tell you, you must learn moderation. Crawl before you run and so on. If you take too much on, it’ll get uncomfortably hard and you’ll just void the whole thing! I want this to WORK. You asked for help, well guess what? Ask and you shall receive 🙂

    You need to change yourself. I am not talking about being fake, I am talking about changing the person you are, but no worries, you’ll still be you, just your personally approved, new and improved Shan. How great is this, not only will you be able to live your dreams, but to be an actual worthwhile person? I dreamz about it too, but I’m also taking baby steps 🙂

    Start off by watching this called 10 Keys to Personal Power by Brian Tracy (Street Money Motivation): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ED_9yvY4oS8
    !!! Before you start, bring something to write with and a paper block. You will need to listen and write anything you feel is important and all his main points (This is the basics of all learning.)
    Have you ever heard a song that made you want to get up and shake it? Okay, maybe to jump up and down, like punk rock (or whatever you feel invigorated by) – the point is, this man will jump start your motivation and it will make you want to accomplish things. Listen to Tony Robbins as well, he can also get you going.
    – Watch “Eat That Frog” by Brian Tray: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-W6ZBVsmCpw
    – And the next is 7 hours long. Don’t be overwhelmed, remember: baby steps 🙂 An hour each day and withing a week it’s over. This is: How To Win Friends And Influence People – Dale Carnegie: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2TU1P2_I0iE

    Try and imagine all that you do in a day. Imagine all the things that don’t require your full attention. Cooking, cleaning, using the toilet, transportation, the first 30 minutes after waking up etc. For the last video you can put it on (have the paper and pen near the pc if you catch something meaningful), while doing something menial.
    I’ve found that if I can’t stop what ever job I am doing and don’t want to stop the tape, so I listen to more. When I have to clean I always put something on in order for the time to fly and have a really sparkling space!

    About the actual work to come later a few tips:
    1. Learning area: Have a table or area that is dedicated to “learning/school”.
    2. Reinforce motivation firstly: Before starting, see and get excited about your goal: a good grade, recognition and praise from family or peers etc.
    3. The right music: Put (good) Baroque music on for studying (I am not sh*tting you, multiple studies show the rhythm helps the brain concentrate and learn!)
    4. Pauses: Take a break of 10-15 minutes every 40 or 50 minutes. Even if you want to proceed do this. It’s to prevent the brain from “overloading” meaning having a painful headache (avoid pain at all cost). I recommend one break to stretch in and another move around in and relaxing (especially if a headache starts: lying down and listening for example to a guided mediation is wonderful.
    5. Attitude: Be in a positive and comfortable state of mind and feeling. It’ll simply make it easier for the brain to learn and you won’t be miserable! It’s a win-win!

    I am currently learning and doing most of this. Some of it is self-improvement, super learning techniques and just things that we have been told, but never understood how worked!

    If you want it bad enough you’ll achieve it (if I need to brush my teeth I can’t get to the bathroom, but if I need to pee, I am in there, before I notice it and then think “great now I can brush teeth”, lol.) You do seem motivated to DO something, so let’s start out here with baby steps first 🙂 I know you can do it, or else you wouldn’t have “reached” out.

    Good luck, 🙂

  4. @Somebody

    Thanks very very much for your reply, even though it was late, it was the best reply for this post.
    I really appreciate your enthusiasm to help me and the thought you put behind your research in helping me.

    Sincerely,
    Shan

  5. Wait, you guys are going to do the Leaving Cert 2014.. And u started worrying in July?!?!
    It’s Decemeber and I’m looking for motivation!! Lord!! 🙁

  6. @Rida I dont the Leaving Cert 2013. Don’t worry, I wasn’t motivated for a long time. I never really did get motivated tbh.. I am just not that sort of person. If I really do not want to do something ( because I do not enjoy it ) then I just wont do it.

    In the end, after barely studying at all, a measly week or so of proper studying for the whole year, i got 390 points ( and I still think that 1 or 2 exams should have been higher but I wasnt bothered to get them rechecked ) so in and around lets say 400 points. Not bad for someone who never studied… :L

    In saying that, I do NOT recommend not studying!! It is different for everyone and I cannot guarantee you will be okay if you just dont study you know.. What I do recommend is.. try to make yourself your own private and quiet little place where you can study at home with no distractions. Put your phone away before you get into the room and only books and pens can be brought into the room. IF you need your laptop / pc for any reason , do NOT go onto Facebook!!!!!! SERIOUSLY the amount of time myself and friends wasted on that when we were meant to be studying. ITS EVIL!!!

    You need to make sure you study a few times after school. I know you hate homework and all that, and you get loads and all, but work out the days where you don’t get so much homework and even just studying on those less busy days would be fine. What points are you going for? It all adds up to that really..

    In the end, the Leaving Cert is not in any shape or form an intelligence test. It is simply an exam where you have to memorize essays/information/etc off by heart, essays/information/etc that you will most likely never use again, nor remember after your exam. How intelligent!

    Good luck with it, Rida.

    If you ever need any more advice; email me here , I’m all ears. ( trust me, Leaving Cert year for me was the worst of my life…I am here to listen! :))

    [email protected]

    Shan 🙂

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